You are so enough. Just you. As you are. This is the message I am passionate about helping students hear and embrace.
When I look back over experiences we’ve had as a foster family and interactions with student clients, I confess I just feel sad at how many kids carry such a heavy load each day because of the you’re not enough messages that surround them. Some of those messages are subtle and take the form of not having the right stuff, the right friends, the right grades, athletic ability, family, etc.
Other messages are much more direct and take the form of bullying and the purposeful tearing down of another individual. In the extreme, the results can be outrageously tragic with students taking their own lives because of the overwhelming message of being so far from enough. According to The Jason Foundation, each day there is an average of over 5,400 suicide attempts by students who are in 7th – 12th grade. This should not be!
Hope – Filled Messages
Students from stable backgrounds, and students from hard places need to hear the message every day that they are enough, just as they are. No one has been left out when it comes to being amazing at something . . . of being special and unique . . . of having immense value. Students need to be set free to feel great about who they are. Then, and only then, will they be free and confident to grow more fully into the person they were designed to be.
This is really why I chose to go into the field of coaching. The underlying premise that a coach has with each and every client is you are enough, complete, and whole. You have what it takes to move toward maximum personal and professional potential. It’s a powerful and life-changing message to be able to share with a struggling student. Often times the message feels foreign at first, but beautiful and so empowering when students really embrace the truth of it.
Life Giving Messages
I am in the final stages of paperwork (mailing to the IRS tomorrow!) for a non-profit to offer support for kids aging out of foster care, as well as those coming from similarly hard places. One of the things we want to do is offer coaching for at-risk students and young adults, foster kids, and orphans. The tools they will learn and the message of you are enough is of critical value for them.
Maybe more so than any other demographic, students who have been in the system are keenly aware of what has been broken and lost. Restoring a sense of value and helping students have the opportunity to look forward with excitement and hope rather than back at darkness and pain is something coaches can offer.
If you are looking for a way to make a difference in the lives of students, or need some new tools to increase impact, please consider the field of coaching. There are so many who need what you have to offer!
Thanks for checking out my blog! I am an ICF certified Academic Life Coach and train youth advocates in the Academic Life Coaching 1.0 coach training program. I’m also an adoptive mom, youth advocate and a licensed therapeutic foster parent. For more information about this program for the student in your life or on how to train as a coach, please contact me here.